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Although we don't admit it often, us guys can stress out when we're trying to decode the signs she likes you. Unfortunately, when we're in that state, we miss everything she's throwing at us.
What are the signs she likes you?Â
1. She’ll Twirl Her Hair.
2. She’ll Play With Her Jewelry.
3. She’ll Have Enlarged Pupils.
4. She’ll Scan Your Body.
5. She’ll Nibble Or Lick Her Lips.
6. She’ll Mirror Your Body Language.
7. She’ll Play With Her Drink.
8. She’ll Giggle And Smile.
9. She’ll Straighten Her Clothes.
It's important to take note that any one of these cues by themselves won't tell you the whole story.
But instead, it should trigger you to look for clusters of cues from her happening within one, single interaction that will give us the best opportunity to determine how she really feels about us.
Here are those nine things she does around you, described in detail, to show you she's interested:
1. She'll Twirl Her Hair
If you're alone with her and she's twirling her hair, this is one of the biggest signs she likes you and that you have her complete attention.
Understand that the hair twirling is being done subconsciously. Her body is trying to tell you something rather than her mind.
Make sure to smile and have fun when you see these signs. It's very likely that more signs will soon follow.
2. She'll Play With Her Jewelry
Like the hair twirling, this is yet another sign of playfulness to let you know her body is loose and she is comfortable in your presence.
Typically, you'll see her hands move to a watch or bracelet. If she moves to play with her necklace, this is very positive since the neck is a very sensitive area for her.
She mostly likely would not be anywhere near the neck area if things weren't going well with her.
When you notice these things, allow them to happen and keep your focus on her eyes. Be sure to take mental notes!
3. She'll Have Enlarged Pupils
Obviously, this one is completely involuntary and she can't hide this from happening. If you see big pupils forming, keep up everything you're doing, because she's totally into you.
The idea here is to see them gradually enlarge while having a conversation with her. If you're in a very dark room (or you suspect she's doing drugs!), then all bets are off on this one.
She'll have no idea what her pupils are doing, so lock eyes with her and keep the conversation going.
4. She'll Scan Your Body
Are you starting to notice a few of these signs she likes you happening simultaneously or within minutes of speaking with her?
Next time you're on a date, you might be lucky enough to get the “full body scan.”
She'll probably know she's doing this, but this is where you can have some real fun with her. After she scans, widen your eyes like you caught her doing something. Then, quickly scan her body like she did with you.
This will be a welcomed moment of shared body language when you playfully bust her for checking you out.
5. She'll Nibble or Lick Her Lips
This is another involuntary response we do when we're nervous – our lips and mouth go dry…
If she's licking them slowly, then she's probably listening to you very intently and something that you're saying is resonating with her. Your words are eliciting an emotional response from her, a definite sign attraction is brewing.
Women who have zero interest in man have what is called a flat affect – in other words, she'll show no emotion in her face.
6. She'll Mirror Your Body Language
Mirroring is something men and woman do when we're subconsciously feeling a bond with the person we're with at the time.
This applies to dating, but also to things like business deals, friendships and other interpersonal relations.
Stop and notice what your arms and legs are doing at any point on a date. What are her arms and legs doing?
If you notice she's doing the same thing as you, she's mirroring you. Yes – more great signs she likes you!
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7. She'll Play With Her Drink
If her drink has a straw, she'll typically be swirling it around in her drink in a slow, almost hypnotic fashion.
Notice the pattern that's developing within these signs: her movements are slow and not quick or jarring.
You may also see her run her finger along the edge of her glass or hold her drink to her mouth just a little longer than normal.
8. She'll Giggle And Smile
It's amazing to me how much this one can throw men off, and how much it threw me off when I was first getting out there and not really knowing what was happening on dates.
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Sometimes a woman giggling or smiling can lead us to believe she's caught us doing something wrong, and we end up sabotaging anything we're doing at the time by changing things up unnecessarily.
Giggles and smiles are good, man! Get out of your head! If I had only known this back in my teens… ahhh…
9. She'll Straighten Her Clothes
This one can be pretty funny when you catch it. It's funny both when she doesn't realize she's doing it, but also when she catches herself doing it…
Picture it – you're on a date and you start doing things you normally only be doing in front of you mirror at home, not in public.
This is one of the more very personal, intimate signs she likes you because it shows she cares about her appearance in front of you in a very open way. Trust me, don't miss this one, because it's the cutest thing you'll ever see.
Reading Body Language Is Reading The Proper Signs She Likes You
The signs will be all over the place. These are just a few to get you started and that should reveal themselves easier than others.
To be safe, make sure you're noticing 2-3 of the signs happening on a single date to feel confident she wants to see you again.
Ryan, Interesting article! I was previously in the dating scene for many years, I enjoyed going out and meeting the opposite sex every weekend. One thing to remember is to relax. if you look like you are hunting a mate, you will never find her. But if you are relaxed, having a good time and not anxious, you’ll meet some really nice people. This is another one of those subconscious actions that she will pick up on whether she knows it or not. Also, if you are comfortable with yourself, you’ll naturally be funny and attractive to her. Work on the self esteem first!
Steve
Hi Steve!
Haha yes don’t ever look like you’re “hunting a mate” when you’re out with her! You’ll reek of desperation and the date will end is disaster!
And Steve’s also right about when men are in a relaxed state of mind on a date, we’re naturally witty and charming to her. It’s already inside us; we just have to be cool in order to let it flow out.
Thanks, man! -R
Well this will certainly come in handy…. 🙂
Reading through this list, and I couldn’t help but realise that I’ve witnessed a lot of these ‘motions’ before in the past – and never really caught onto them! The point about mirroring the body language – makes perfect sense, and I’ve noticed before, but not thought much about it!
Great article – and very useful tips. How about any signs that she DOESN’T like you?
Hey Chris!
It’s funny, no one wants to talk about the “DOESN’T” part, but it’s equally as important to read!
The body language I’d take note of is if she’s “close off” to you in any way (i.e. crossed arms or legs), also if she’s turned away from you and kind of almost looking at you over her shoulder. You might catch an occasional eye roll from her while you’re speaking. She will use one-word responses to your questions, she’ll typically make zero effort to either smile or laugh at you, will not make any physical contact with you whatsoever ever, or she’ll just end the date much earlier than you had anticipated! (Oh man, I guess I’ve been in these scenarios before – my secret’s out!!)
Anyway, hope some of those help! Just stay in tune with her and you’ll most likely just feel something’s off or things aren’t going well. Thanks, Chris! -R
Hi Ryan!
This is a really unique and interesting topic. As a woman (who is in a committed relationship and hasn’t dated for over 20 years) your evaluation of these 9 signs was spot on, much to my own surprise!
After reading your bio and the detailed process you went through to arrive at your conclusions I understand the psychology behind your theories and why they are so honest and forthright. Good for you!
I will be referring this site to my 30-something year old son who has been single for a couple years after a difficult divorce. Hopefully he will see the value in your words of experience, and it will help him attract quality people into his life. Maybe that’s an idea for a future article, how a guy can overcome being dumped by the love of his life? I’ll be watching for it!
Thanks for taking on the difficult subject of relationships with both humor and sensitivity.
Kyle Ann
Hi Kyle!
Well thank you for these wonderful compliments and for referring your son over to the site! I’m glad you see enough value there to refer him! I can only imagine what he’s been through with his divorce. I’m a product of a divorced relationship myself and I do have faith he’ll be able to navigate those dark waters.
And yes!! I will absolutely be writing an article about men and heartbreak as I do have very close personal proximity to that topic. I hope to show men that their true value is never lost in any relationship, even ones without proper closure. It’s about rediscovering yourself outside of a relationship and “filling up your spirit” with all of those things you loved doing independently of anyone else so that you can one day share that with someone special again. Should be up in the next week or two!
Really appreciate your words, Kyle! Thank you! -R
Wow Ryan. Great tips to know if she likes me. You know I’ve tried figuring this out and I have seen some ladies doing these when I’m around them. I certainly will Watch the girl I love carefully to see if she does any of those.
But, a little Question. Do these signs truly prove if a lady love a guy or they’re are kinda under probability?
Thanks for sharing these 9 clues.
Hey BEazzy!
True proof of love will come in much more significant forms. If you’ve ever experienced them, you know what I’m talking about i.e. people going out of their way for you, loyalty even in the face of adversity, etc.
True proof of interest is a much different story, and that’s where these 9 cues come in. They’re a fantastic indicator of how a woman feels about you because she’s doing things subconsciously and not purposefully leading you to believe one thing or another. That’s why body language is such a powerful way to determine what people are thinking and not just with dating. Nothing’s 100%, but the cues will lead you to exploring more if this relationship can go anywhere long-term.
Great question! Thanks for asking it! -R
Hello,
I am in love with a guy and he also loves me too. But he has a girlfriend, he has always looked for ways to break up with her, but he has a problem. He doesn’t like hurting people….. So I don’t know what to ?
Hi Kristen,
This is a real tough situation, particularly for you, since the more favorable outcome for you rests solely on his shoulders to make a decision and take action. If he really loved you, it wouldn’t even be a problem for to break up with her, honestly. It brings up the question, is it really possible to be in love with two people simultaneously?
There is one other potential scenario here. Could he be stringing both of you along so he has the best of both worlds? If he’s seeing you behind her back without making a clean break to be with you, how do you know he’s not going to do that to you in the future? These are some serious things to consider to look at the situation honestly and objectively.
If you’re asking me, it’s not fair what he’s doing to you right now. If I were you, I’d give him a week to figure out if he’s really going to break up with her. Otherwise, tell him you’re hitting the road. It’s decision time. You’re not waiting around forever and you have your own life to live. Based on his actions after that point, you should have a strong idea of where he really stands.
Thanks for expressing this very important (and quite common) concern. I hope this helps 🙂 -R
Great piece of writing friend. I have met the girl of my dreams. she is fun, lively and most importantly has a superb dressing sense. when we talk, she touches her hair a lot but she does not seem confused or anything when we talk. she goes out with me but it is not any sort date or something due to outdoor work, we go together two 2 to 3 times in a month. I have a question; can she really be into me? I am afraid to make a move what if I have been assuming it this whole time? Could you help me by sharing some advice? I do need it at this point.
Hey Robert!
Thanks for writing in about this love interest of yours! I can tell you right off the top that you are in a very favorable position in this woman’s mind right now. Women do not make the effort to hang out with men they’re not interested in just to be “polite.” If you’re seeing her almost once per week, she may still be learning about you and figuring out how she feels about you.
Now, let me ask you. Just she ask you questions about yourself? Does she seem engaged when you’re speaking with her (i.e. leaning in to listen, laughing/smiling while you’re speaking)? She may very well be waiting for you to make a move, but things sound like they’re evolving and progressing naturally. In your gut, what are her eyes telling you? Do they give you “butterflies in your stomach?”
Be fearless, my friend! I’d say if the moment presents itself, lock eyes with her, smile, and slowly lean in for the kiss. You’ll know everything you need to know after that point. If she’s the “girl of [your] dreams,” then she’s certainly worth taking the chance on and seeing if she’s open for a kiss, right?
Let us know how it goes and good luck! -R