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Let’s be frank here, men want to get laid. We know women do too. I’m going to help you out by breaking things down very simply to navigate your path in how to get laid. It’s not rocket science, but getting laid takes a plan mixed with a lot of confidence. It might not happen on the first try, but trust us, it will eventually happen. Getting laid isn’t just about getting off. Sure, that can be a fun part of it. Physical intimacy also plays a part in developing healthy relationships. It’s the ultimate expression of love. That’s why it’s so important to learn how to get laid properly so you can explore yourself sexually and find someone onboard with your idea of a healthy sex life. Getting laid is part of seeing what’s out there. It helps you discover what you like and what kind of person you like doing it with. I break down proven strategies into five phases that lead to sex step by step so you can track when things work and what you need to improve on. This isn’t about taking advantage of women or reading off some script to pick up girls… It’s about putting yourself in the best position to find what you want and go after it. Women, though some may be reluctant to admit it, will appreciate the effort you’re putting in. After all, someone’s got to be assertive if anyone’s going to score. So here you go, my ultimate guide on how to get laid in 50 steps: Phase I. Get Yourself Right In order to get laid you need to understand that your job is to sort yourself out well enough so that someone else will want to have sex with you. That doesn’t mean that you have to be a gym rat or a millionaire… Not everyone is as funny as Chapelle, and you probably wouldn’t be reading this if you were six foot eight with a mean jump shot… If you have a unique trait or skill that can pull girls, great, use it! But if not, what we’re going for is a mix that’s good enough to close the deal. Here’s the first five steps on how to get laid by getting yourself right… Job We’re not going to spend time on the cliché that rich guys know how to get laid because they have money. What we’re talking about though is how a job is an expression of who you are. Women crave authenticity. They want to be close to men who are passionate about work and what they do for a living. It’s cool if you’re a line cook, but just be ready to talk about why you love it and how it’s the stepping stone to get you where you want to be. Gym We already said you didn’t have to be a gym rat, but just think about physical fitness for a moment. Think about the type of women you want to date. You should get yourself in the same general fitness universe as the women you want to have sex with. Otherwise how can you expect them to imagine themselves getting down with you? Be Genuine Tons of guys feel like putting on some fake persona is how to get her into bed. That might work occasionally, but only if they lady is doing the exact same thing. Real recognizes real. Getting laid is all about playing to your strengths, not being someone, you aren’t. Have Goals Men are focused on the here and now. Women play the long game. Even when things are relatively new in a relationship, women have the tendency to envision what life could look like with you. You need to be able to at least talk about some of your aspirations. It will go a long way, and if you don’t have any now, do yourself a favor and spend some time making some. Game Plan Alright, you’re fit, you’re confident, and you’re going places. Even you’ve fallen in love with yourself. Now all you need is a game plan. Going out to get laid without a plan is only setting yourself up for failure. You’ll face unnecessary rejection and won’t improve your game. In the next phase we’ll get into setting up your plan that will make getting laid a whole lot easier. Phase II. Create a Target Rich Environment If you really want to get laid you have to get out there. Luck happens when opportunity meets preparation. You want to get lucky, right? Putting yourself in the right position to meet women and push things along is how you get laid. We all see some guy picking up a girl at the bar and think, wow, he must be rich, or have some great line. The truth is, he’s probably tried over and over again, but all you’re seeing is when he’s striking gold. Creating target rich environment means making effort to be somewhere you’ll get the practice you need to start getting dates. Here are the next steps to creating those opportunities… Join Some Clubs Let’s say you move to a new place and want to meet friends, what do you do? How did you meet all your buddies in college? Joining a club, a gym or a class is a great way to meet new people, including women. Odds are you’re not going to find your dream girl living next door. Start Doing Yoga Take this literally if you want, yoga is excellent for your health and a lot of fit, nice women do yoga. It’s a great place to meet ladies. The point of this step is to go to places and join activities where there are women you want to meet. Download Dating Apps Don’t forget about virtual environments as well. If you’re younger, you are more likely to be familiar with the wide selection of dating apps available. The apps’ main goal is to connect people with similar interests. People who want to hook up connect with people who want to hook up, and more relationship-inclined people find someone more serious. Tweak Your Profiles So remember in phase one when we talked about accentuating the positive and getting yourself, right? It’s super important with how you present yourself on dating apps. Women scroll through hundreds of profiles and have to make snap judgements based on your pic and a few sentences describing what you’re like. Make sure you put your best foot forward. A killer profile is how to get laid. Don’t worry, they’re doing the same thing. Ask Your Friends To Hook You Up This should be a no-brainer, but we’re putting it here just in case. Look around and you’ll see guys and girls in relationships everywhere that met at work, or through friends. The point is that many of us end up dating people who run in close social circles. Consult Your Female Friends Hopefully you have some female friends. If you don’t, make it a priority before you start asking girls over for the night. Girl friends are some of the best resources to teach you how to get laid. It might sound cheesy, but they’ll tell you what women like and what moves to avoid when you’re going in. Go To Bars Bars are still the tried and true place to meet women and hook up. Men and women go to bars looking to score. Chances are you’ll find whatever it is you’re looking for pretty quickly in a crowded bar. You’ll be more comfortable in a bar you like going to, so choose a place you’d be at anyway. Women often go to bars with a group of friends, so ask along some pals to play wingman for the night. Become A Regular Somewhere When you’ve found a spot you like, keep going back. Becoming a regular at a bar or club has a lot of benefits. The more money you spend at one place, the more likely you’ll get treated a lot better by the staff. It doesn’t hurt is someone you’re hitting on happens to notice you getting a comped drink here and there. They’ll also be impressed when the bartender calls you by name. Talk To Strangers Ok, so you’re at the bar. You’ve been coming here for four nights straight and there are always lots of women. Eventually you’re going to have to talk to them. We know, walking up to a girl, especially if she’s with friends is tough. She could reject you and you could feel like a loser. If you’re super concerned about your approach, practice talking to strangers you aren’t interested in. Strike up a conversation with someone sitting next to you at the bar, or in the waiting room at the doctor’s office. Play The Odds Getting laid is a numbers game. The more you put yourself out there, the better your chances are of scoring. A lot of men sit at the bar working up the courage to try and talk to one woman at night. They get rejected and go home crushed… Guys who know how to get laid talk to a lot of women. They learn how to read receptive signs for women that mean they are open to talking and maybe a bit more. Don’t Let Rejection Get To You There’s really no way to overcome this easily. Getting turned down is tough, no two-ways about it. The only way you can beat rejection is with some positive self-talk and getting back in the ring until you find something that works. Phase III. The Setup Alright, we’re almost there. We’re confident, and we’re out there looking. We’re taking chances and getting better with each successive attempt. At some point you’ve got to start planning for the eventuality of getting laid. Spend a little time to make sure your place is straight, and supplies are in order before you bring a girl over for sex. A little preparation now will make everything go smoothly when it counts… The Prep This will seem basic but so many guys still mess it up. If you live alone, it’s easy to control the environment and how to get laid. But if you live with other people, there need to be some ground rules if one of you happens to score… It’s a simple matter of asking them to either get lost or lay low when she’s over. The Place For whatever reason, some men still fail to realize that no woman wants to have sex in a messy house or apartment. If your place is a wreck, make sure it’s at least passable when she arrives. The nicer it looks, the greater your chances are for a return customer. Make the bed, pick up trash, etc. A lot of women ask to use the bathroom when they come over. Yes, they’re tidying up, but they’re also peeking in the medicine cabinet and looking at the floor to see what you’re all about. The Protection Just make sure you have condoms on hand. Put them by the bed. Slipping one on is always a bit weird when it’s your first time with a girl. Make it easy by initiating the process. Don’t make her ask for you to put on a condom. Don’t be dumb, have safe sex. Post-Sex Process If you’ve had some experience with how to get laid, you know that sometimes you need an escape plan. Both of you have had a great time, and now it’s time to say goodbye… Not always as easy as it seems. If you’re down with her spending the night that’s fine but having a smooth way to amicably part ways even in the morning will come off pretty cool. Phase IV. The Date OK, now we’re getting into deeper waters. You spoke to her, got her number, and asked her out. Now it’s time for the date. This will make or break your chances of getting laid. The date is all about setting the stage for sex. Whether it’s for fun or something more serious, the way you handle things on the first day will set the tone for the rest of the evening. The One Regardless of how many one night stands you have, eventually you’re going to meet someone you want to get to know better. There’s going to be a girl you take more than a passing interest in. How You Ask It’s important when you ask a girl out that you do it directly and confidently. Don’t hold back and make it a noncommittal invite because you’re scared of her saying no. That’s definitely not how to get laid. Take the risk and ask her out. Make your invite clearly convey that you’re into her. The Follow Up It’s pretty smooth to leave some things open when you ask her out. Just tell her a place and time you’ll pick her up. That way you can follow up with her in a couple days with plans. Tell her where you’ll be going and tell her how much you’re looking forward to it. You’ve started the process of building things up before you even see her. Choose The Right Place This is tough, no qualms about it. Whatever you do, don’t take her to a movie where you sit in silence for hours. The whole point of the first date is to get her to like you. That means getting to know you and charming her. Think about taking a walk through a park or a neighborhood to your favorite café or restaurant as a great place to start. At The Right Time The later you can push the date into the evening the better your odds are of getting laid. Set yourself up for success by avoiding an early date start time. You’ll be stuck trying to fill hours until the sun goes down. Think About Meeting At Your Place First Sometimes guys have to try something slick, right? Having her meet at your place adds a bit of intrigue to a first date. She also gets to see your place, so coming over for some action later won’t be the first time she’s been there. You can lay it on thick if you want by “forgetting” something inside and inviting her in for a couple minutes as you walk back for your wallet or whatever. A Friendly Touch Listen up, it’s critical you touch your date early on and often throughout the date. It’s not creepy, it just communicates that you are into her. It’s a very direct physical indication of interest. She’ll either be receptive to your touching her lower back as you open a door for her, or she won’t, and you can take it from there. First Compliment Just as important as touch, you need to sincerely compliment her on her appearance as soon as you see her. Women stress out about how they look, and they put in a lot of time to look nice. Telling her she looks great or is beautiful will put her at ease for the rest of the night. Ask Questions Hopefully, at this point, you know not to bring up any ex-girlfriends or talk about how much of a jerk you can be. Stay positive and in the moment. Focus on asking her questions to really get to know her. The more you get her talking, the more comfortable she’ll be. Question/Feedback Loop As you ask questions, pay attention to how she’s responding. When you ask her if she enjoys her food, a muted response could mean she’s bored and is looking for a way out. Same goes for asking her how she likes her job, hobbies, or even dating preferences. Her level of enthusiasm will mirror how happy she is with the date and how much she likes you. Give Affirmation Do everything you can to give positive feedback to her. Positively reciprocate when she initiates any sort of physical touch. If she mentions what a great time she’s having, make sure she knows you’re having a blast as well. Give her all the cues she needs to know that you want things to keep progressing. Establish Positive Connection Points You’ve got to find a way to connect on the date. Whether it’s talking about hobbies, common friends or past experiences, establishing rapport means building off common foundations. It’ll create an actual connection between the two of you. Topics Of Conversation If you’re going out with someone for the first time, you need to be prepared for lulls in conversation. What are you doing to do during an awkward silence? Even though it may sound lame, have some things to talk about before the date so you have something to fall back on. Take a look at her Instagram feed for something interesting to bring up. Just make sure it wasn’t a post from seven years ago. That’s creepy. Make It A Multiple-Location Date Dates with multiple stops give you more time to get to know each other. If you’re a bit formal over dinner, taking a walk in the park or grabbing some ice cream a few blocks down will loosen things up. It takes the stress off of deciding whether to hook up after only an hour or two together. Phase V. The Clinch You’ve followed the steps and made all the right moves. She’s smiling and touching you back, laughing at all of your jokes. It’s all right there in front of you and now all you have to do is make it happen. Knowing how to get laid when all the prep work is done is the most important phase. Time to go out and close… Make Your Move Early On Making a move early on is a great way to cut to the chase. Not a lot of women will go on pity dates just because someone asked, but this is a perfect way to weed out that possibility. Don’t make a move first thing, but at some point, you need to make it clear you want both of you to share plans for the evening. Don’t Be Scared To State Your Intentions If you’re feeling particularly bold, go ahead and state your intentions for the night. Keep it classy and try to be romantic. Tell her you’d love to have her over to your place later. She’ll get the hint. Hell, she’ll probably even be relieved you’ve taken the guess work out of things. Keep Things Light And Flirty All Night You’re going to have to work for it but flirting and keeping romance levels high throughout the date are basics steps on how to get laid. Teasing her and remaining upbeat will break down any walls between you two so the coast will be clear at the end of the night. Keep Touching The initial touch breaks the ice, but repeated touch helps create a bond and reinforce your interest for her. You’ll be able to get helpful clues on your chances with how she responds. Find somewhere to sit on that walk so you can cuddle up against each other or sneak an arm around her shoulders. Throw The Invite Out There If you skipped step #36, at some point you’re going to have to ask her over. Make your invite one easy to say yes to. Every woman knows what “come up for a drink” means. Find the right moment when things are good to ask her to come over to your place later to watch a show or something. Don’t Be Pushy The date has to be a gradual building up of touching and flirting to get to sex. Acting aggressive or pushy is not the way to go. It’ll end up blowing up in your face. The best way to go about things is to make a series of small moves and ease things forward when they’re received well. Stay In Control So much time and effort has been put into planning the date. Don’t let things slip through your fingers. Women love to date assertive men. Stay in control of the date and keep things moving your way. Don’t Be Discouraged If She’s Not Quite Ready Putting women into uncomfortable situations is not how to get laid. If you get a “no thanks”, respect it and move on. Maybe it’ll happen on the second date, maybe it never will. You have to be ok with a “no.” It’s never a good move to sleep with a woman who’s not sure it’s what she wants. Casually Roll With A Yes When she does say “yes”, be cool. Even though you might be doing flips in your head because you’re about to get lucky, play it off with a pleasantly even response. If you lay it on too thick it might startle her. Start In A Neutral Spot In Your House You’ve made it, she’s at your place! It’s important to take your time and ease into things. Don’t march right into the bedroom. Start things off in a neutral location like the kitchen or a living room couch so she can survey the scene and get comfortable. Have Drinks On Hand If You Need to Loosen Up This is a just in case. Some people, you or her, might need a little bit of liquid courage to get things going. You’re not trying to get someone drunk to take advantage, here. Y ou’re just having some drinks on hand in case someone needs it to make a move. Run The Bases You’re about to get laid, take your time to enjoy it. Starting at first base and making your way around to home plate is the best way to savor the experience and make sure you’re both on the same page. It also avoids the potential for the “Wait, this isn’t what I thought was going to happen” bit. Seal The Deal When you’ve done all you should, it’s time to close the deal. You’ve followed all these steps on how to get laid and now you and she get to reap the benefits of great sex. Hopefully that’s what it is, anyways. Shower Her With Compliments It could be during foreplay, as you have sex, immediately after, or in the days after. You need to compliment her on how great she looks, feels, smells, and whatever else you can think of. Positive feedback is the best way to guarantee this happens more than once. Keep The Freak Locked Up A first date is not the best time to unleash the freak. Keep things saucy in bed, but don’t overload on kink. Not every girl is into the crazy sex you might be. Becoming totally comfortable with someone in bed happens over time, not on the first night. Please Then Be Pleased This one’s easy, don’t be selfish in bed. Make sure you’ve given her everything she wants before moving on to your needs. The Follow Up I promised 50, but here’s an extra step. The follow up will depend on whether you want to run things back again or not. A nice follow up after sex to tell her you had a great time is the way to go even if you never plan on seeing her again. For something long-term, make sure you take your time for the right response to let her know how much you’d like to see her again. Getting laid should be a simple process. Find someone you like, see if they like you and do what it takes to bring things home. Follow these steps and keep at it and it will eventually happen. Remember, it’s a numbers game… Just like anything else in life, the more you practice the better you’ll get. Don’t work yourself up too much, women are just as nervous and meeting someone they feel comfortable with. Now get out there are give it a shot. Ever found it hard to make the first move on a girl? Tell me about it in the comment box below!

Let’s be frank here, men want to get laid. We know women do too. I’m going to help you out by breaking things down very simply to navigate your path in how to get laid as quickly as possible.

It’s not rocket science, but getting laid takes a plan mixed with a lot of confidence.

It might not happen on the first try, but trust me, it will eventually happen.

Getting laid isn’t just about getting off. Sure, that can be a fun part of it.

Physical intimacy also plays a part in developing healthy relationships. It’s the ultimate expression of love.

That’s why it’s so important to learn how to get laid properly so you can explore yourself sexually and find someone on board with your idea of a healthy sex life.

I break down proven strategies into five phases that lead to sex step-by-step so you can track when things work and what you need to improve on.

This isn’t about taking advantage of women or reading off some script to pick up girls…

It’s about putting yourself in the *best* position to find what you want and go after it.

So here you go, my ultimate guide on how to get laid in 51 baby steps:

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Phase I. Get Yourself Right

In order to get laid you need to understand that your job is to sort yourself out well enough so that someone else will want to have sex with you.

That doesn’t mean that you have to be a gym rat or a millionaire…

Not everyone is as funny as Chapelle, and you probably wouldn’t be reading this if you were six foot eight with a mean jump shot…

If you have a unique trait or skill that can pull girls, great; use it! But if not, what we’re going for is a mix that’s good enough to close the deal.

Here’s the first five steps in getting yourself right…

1. The Right Job

I'm not going to spend time on the cliché that rich guys know how to get laid because they have money.

What I'm talking about though is how a job is an expression of who you are.

Women crave authenticity. They want to be close to men who are passionate about work and what they do for a living.

It’s cool if you’re a line cook, but just be ready to talk about why you love it and how it’s the stepping stone to get you where you want to be.

2. Get To The Gym

I already said you didn’t have to be a gym rat, but just think about physical fitness for a moment.

Think about the type of women you want to date.

You should get yourself in the same general fitness universe as the women you want to have sex with.

Otherwise, how can you expect them to imagine themselves getting down with you?

3. Be Genuine

Tons of guys feel like putting on some fake persona is how to get her into bed.

That might work occasionally, but only if they lady is doing the exact same thing.

Real recognizes real. Getting laid is all about playing to your strengths, not being someone you aren’t.

4. Have Goals

Men are focused on the here and now. Women play the long game.

Even when things are relatively new in a relationship, women have the tendency to envision what life could look like with you.

You need to be able to at least talk about some of your aspirations.

It will go a long way, and if you don’t have any now, do yourself a favor and spend some time making some.

5. Game Plan

Alright, you’re fit, you’re confident, and you’re going places. Even you’ve fallen in love with yourself. Now all you need is a game plan…

Going out to get laid without a plan is only setting yourself up for failure.

You’ll face unnecessary rejection and won’t improve your game. In the next phase, I’ll get into setting up your plan that will make getting laid a lot easier.

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Phase II. Create A Target-Rich Environment

If you really want to get laid, you have to get out there. Luck happens when opportunity meets preparation.

You want to get lucky, right?

Putting yourself in the right position to meet women and push things along is how you get it done.

We all see some guy picking up a girl at the bar and think, wow, he must be rich, or have some great line.

The truth is, he’s probably tried over and over again, but all you’re seeing is when he’s striking gold

Creating a target-rich environment means making an effort to be somewhere you’ll get the practice you need to start getting dates.

Here are the next set of steps to creating those types of opportunities…

6. Join Some Clubs

Let’s say you move to a new place and want to meet friends. What do you do? How did you meet all your buddies in college?

Joining a club, a gym or a class is a great way to meet new people, including women.

Odds are you’re not going to find your dream girl living next door.

7. Start Doing Yoga

Take this literally if you want, yoga is excellent for your health and a lot of fit, nice women do yoga. It’s a great place to meet ladies.

The point of this step is to go to places and join activities where there are women you want to meet.

8. Download Dating / Hook-Up Apps

Don’t forget about virtual environments as well. If you’re younger, you are more likely to be familiar with the wide selection of dating apps available.

The apps’ main goal is to connect people with similar interests.

People who want to hook up connect with people who want to hook up, and more relationship-inclined people find someone more serious.

4 guy working on his dating profile

9. Tweak Your Profiles

So remember in phase one when I talked about accentuating the positive and getting yourself, right?

It’s super important with how you present yourself on dating sites and apps.

Women scroll through hundreds of profiles and have to make snap judgments based on your pic and a few sentences describing what you’re like.

Make sure you put your best foot forward.

A killer profile is how to get laid. Don’t worry, they’re doing the same thing.

10. Ask Your Friends To Hook You Up

This should be a no-brainer, but I'm putting it here just in case.

Look around and you’ll see guys and girls in relationships everywhere that met at work, or through friends.

The point is that many of us end up dating people who run in close social circles.

11. Consult Your Female Friends

Hopefully you have some female friends. If you don’t, make it a priority before you start asking girls over for the night.

Girl friends are some of the best resources to teach you how to get laid.

It might sound cheesy, but they’ll tell you what women like and what moves to avoid when you’re going in.

12. Go To Bars

Bars are still the tried and true place to meet women and hook up. Men and women go to bars looking to score.

Chances are you’ll find whatever it is you’re looking for pretty quickly in a crowded bar.

You’ll be more comfortable in a bar you like going to, so choose a place you’d be at anyway.

Women often go to bars with a group of friends, so ask along some pals to play wing man for the night.

If you want to up your learning curve on meeting women in bars, this extensive techniques program I review here will accelerate your success.

13. Become A Regular Somewhere

When you’ve found a spot you like, keep going back. Becoming a regular at a bar or club has a lot of benefits.

The more money you spend at one place, the more likely you’ll get treated a lot better by the staff.

It doesn’t hurt that someone you’re hitting on happens to notice you getting a comped drink here and there.

They’ll also be impressed when the bartender calls you by name.

14. Talk To Strangers

OK, so you’re at the bar. You’ve been coming here for four nights straight and there are always lots of women. Eventually you’re going to have to talk to them.

We know, walking up to a girl, especially if she’s with friends is tough. She could reject you and you could feel like a loser…

If you’re super concerned about your approach, practice talking to strangers you aren’t interested in.

Strike up a conversation with someone sitting next to you at the bar, or in the waiting room at the doctor’s office.

5 guy walking home from the bar

15. Play The Odds

Getting laid is a numbers game. The more you put yourself out there, the better your chances are of scoring.

A lot of men sit at the bar working up the courage to try to talk to one woman each night.

They get rejected and go home crushed

Guys who know how to get laid talk to a lot of women. They learn how to read receptive signs for women that mean they are open to talking and maybe a bit more.

16. Don’t Let Rejection Get To You

There’s really no way to overcome this easily. Getting turned down is the worst; no two ways about it.

The only way you can beat rejection is with some positive self-talk and getting back in the ring until you find something that works.

If you want to get over rejection faster, you should definitely look into getting this “inner game” program.

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Phase III. The Setup

Alright, we’re almost there! We’re confident, and we’re out there looking. We’re taking chances and getting better with each successive attempt.

At some point you’ve got to start planning for the eventuality of getting laid. Spend a little time to make sure your place is straight, and supplies are in order before you bring a girl over for sex.

A little preparation now will make everything go smoothly when it counts…

17. The Prep

This will seem basic, but so many guys still mess it up. If you live alone, it’s easy to control the environment.

But if you live with other people, there need to be some ground rules if one of you happens to score…

It’s a simple matter of asking them to either get lost or lay low when she’s over.

18. The Place

For whatever reason, some men still fail to realize that no woman wants to have sex in a messy house or apartment.

If your place is a wreck, make sure it’s at least passable when she arrives.

The nicer it looks, the greater your chances are for a return customer. Make the bed, pick up trash, etc.

A lot of women ask to use the bathroom when they come over.

Yes, they’re tidying up, but they’re also peeking in the medicine cabinet and looking at the floor to see what you’re all about.

19. The Protection

Just make sure you have condoms on hand. Put them by the bed.

Slipping one on is always a bit weird when it’s your first time with a girl. Make it easy by initiating the process.

Don’t make her ask for you to put on a condom. Be smart; have safe sex.

20. Post-Sex Process

If you’ve had some experience getting laid, you know that sometimes you need an escape plan.

Both of you have had a great time, and now it’s time to say goodbye…

Not always as easy as it seems. If you’re down with her spending the night that’s fine, but having a smooth way to amicably part ways even in the morning will come off pretty cool.

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Phase IV. The Date

OK, now we’re getting into deeper waters. You spoke to her, got her number, and asked her out.

Now it’s time for the date. Consequently, this will make or break your chances of getting laid.

The date is all about setting the stage for sex. Whether it’s for fun or something more serious, the way you handle things on the first day will set the tone for the rest of the evening.

21. The One

Regardless of how many one-night stands you have, eventually you’re going to meet someone you want to get to know better.

There’s going to be a girl you take more than a passing interest in.

22. How You Ask

It’s important when you ask a girl out that you do it directly and confidently. If you want to learn how to do this effectively, check out my review of a highly effective program for talking to girls here.

Don’t hold back and make it a noncommittal invite because you’re scared of her saying no.

That’s definitely not how to get laid. Take the risk and ask her out. Make your invite clearly convey that you’re into her.

23. The Follow Up

It’s pretty smooth to leave some things open when you ask her out. Just tell her a place and time you’ll pick her up.

That way you can follow up with her in a couple days with plans.

Tell her where you’ll be going and tell her how much you’re looking forward to it.

You’ve started the process of building things up before you even see her.

24. Choose The Right Place

This is tough, no qualms about it. Whatever you do, don’t take her to a movie where you sit in silence for hours…

Most importantly, the whole point of the first date is to get her to like you.

That means getting to know her and charming her. Think about taking a walk through a park or a neighborhood to your favorite café or restaurant as a great place to start.

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25. Choose The Right Time

The later you can push the date into the evening, the better your odds are of getting laid.

Set yourself up for success by avoiding an early date start time. You’ll be stuck trying to fill hours until the sun goes down.

26. Think About Meeting At Your Place First

Sometimes guys have to try something slick, right? Having her meet at your place adds a bit of intrigue to a first date.

She also gets to see your place, so coming over for some action later won’t be the first time she’s been there.

You can lay it on thick if you want by “forgetting” something inside and inviting her in for a couple minutes as you walk back for your wallet or whatever.

27. A Friendly Touch

Listen up, it’s critical you touch your date early on and often throughout the date. It’s not creepy, it just communicates that you are into her.

It’s a very direct physical indication of interest. She’ll either be receptive to your touching her lower back as you open a door for her, or she won’t, and you can take it from there.

28. First Compliment

Just as important as touch, you need to sincerely compliment her on her appearance as soon as you see her.

Women stress out about how they look, and they put in a lot of time to look nice.

Telling her she looks great or is beautiful will put her at ease for the rest of the night.

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29. Ask Questions

Hopefully, at this point, you know not to bring up any ex-girlfriends or talk about how much of a jerk you can be.

Stay positive and in the moment.

Focus on asking her questions to really get to know her. The more you get her talking, the more comfortable she’ll be.

30. Question/Feedback Loop

As you ask questions, pay attention to how she’s responding. When you ask her if she enjoys her food, a muted response could mean she’s bored and is looking for a way out.

Same goes for asking her how she likes her job, hobbies, or even dating preferences. Her level of enthusiasm will mirror how happy she is with the date and how much she likes you.

31. Give Affirmation

Do everything you can to give positive feedback to her. Positively reciprocate when she initiates any sort of physical touch.

Consequently, if she mentions what a great time she’s having, make sure she knows you’re having a blast as well.

Give her all the cues she needs to know that you want things to keep progressing.

32. Establish Positive Connection Points

You’ve got to find a way to connect on the date. Whether it’s talking about hobbies, common friends or past experiences, establishing rapport means building off common foundations.

It’ll create an actual connection between the two of you.

33. Topics Of Conversation

If you’re going out with someone for the first time, you need to be prepared for lulls in conversation.

What are you doing to do during an awkward silence?

Even though it may sound lame, have some things to talk about before the date so you have something to fall back on.

I recommend loading up your conversation arsenal by going through this hilarious course about how to make women laugh that I review here.

34. Make It A Multiple-Location Date

Dates with multiple stops give you more time to get to know each other.

Therefore, if you’re a bit formal over dinner, taking a walk in the park or grabbing some ice cream a few blocks down will loosen things up.

It takes the stress off of deciding whether to hook up after only an hour or two together.

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Phase V. The Clinch

You’ve followed the steps and made all the right moves. She’s smiling and touching you back, laughing at all of your jokes.

It’s all right there in front of you and now all you have to do is make it happen.

Knowing how to get laid when all the prep work is done is the most important phase.

Time to go out and close…

35. Make Your Move Early On

Making the move early on is a great way to cut to the chase. Not a lot of women will go on pity dates just because someone asked, but this is a perfect way to weed out that possibility.

Don’t make a move first thing, but at some point, you need to make it clear you want both of you to share plans for the evening.

36. Don’t Be Scared To State Your Intentions

If you’re feeling particularly bold, go ahead and state your intentions for the night. Keep it classy and try to be romantic.

Tell her you’d love to have her over to your place later.

She’ll get the hint. Hell, she’ll probably even be relieved you’ve taken the guess work out of things.

37. Keep Things Light And Flirty All Night

You’re going to have to work for it, but flirting and keeping romance levels high throughout the date are basics steps in getting laid.

Teasing her and remaining upbeat will break down any walls between you two so the coast will be clear at the end of the night.

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38. Keep Touching

The initial touch breaks the ice, but repeated touch helps create a bond and reinforce your interest for her.

You’ll be able to get helpful clues on your chances with how she responds.

Find somewhere to sit on that walk so you can cuddle up against each other or sneak an arm around her shoulders.

39. Throw The Invite Out There

If you skipped step #36, at some point you’re going to have to ask her over. Make your invite one easy to say yes to.

Every woman knows what “come up for a drink” means.

Find the right moment when things are good to ask her to come over to your place later to watch a show or something.

40. Don’t Be Pushy

The date has to be a gradual building up of touching and flirting to get to sex.

Acting aggressive or pushy is not the way to go. It’ll end up blowing up in your face.

The best way to go about things is to make a series of small moves and ease things forward when they’re received well.

41. Stay In Control

So much time and effort has been put into planning the date. Don’t let things slip through your fingers. Women love to date assertive men.

Stay in control of the date and keep things moving your way.

42. Don’t Be Discouraged If She’s Not Ready

Putting women into uncomfortable situations is not how to get laid. If you get a “no thanks,” respect it and move on.

Maybe it’ll happen on the second date, maybe it never will.

In short, you have to be OK with a “no.” It’s never a good move to sleep with a woman who’s not sure it’s what she wants.

43. Casually Roll With A Yes

When she does say “yes,” be cool. Even though you might be doing flips in your head because you’re about to get lucky, play it off with a pleasantly even response.

However, if you lay it on too thick, it might startle her.

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44. Start In A Neutral Spot In Your House

You’ve made it, she’s at your place! It’s important to take your time and ease into things. Don’t march right into the bedroom.

Start things off in a neutral location like the kitchen or a living room couch so she can survey the scene and get comfortable.

45. Have Drinks On Hand To Loosen Up

This is a just in case. Some people, you or her, might need a little liquid courage to get things going.

However, you’re not trying to get someone drunk to take advantage, here.

You're’re just having some drinks on hand in case someone needs it to make a move.

46. Run The Bases

You’re about to get laid, take your time to enjoy it. Starting at first base and making your way around to home plate is the best way to savor the experience and make sure you’re both on the same page.

It also avoids the potential for the “Wait, this isn’t what I thought was going to happen” bit.

47. Seal The Deal

When you’ve done all you should, it’s time to close the deal. You’ve followed all these steps on how to get laid and now you both get to reap the benefits of great sex.

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48. Shower Her With Compliments

It could be during foreplay, as you have sex, immediately after, or in the days after. You need to compliment her on how great she looks, feels, smells, and whatever else you can think of.

Positive feedback is the best way to guarantee this happens more than once.

49. Keep The Freak Locked Up

A first date is not the best time to unleash the freak. Keep things saucy in bed, but don’t overload on kink.

Not every girl is into the crazy sex you might be.

Becoming totally comfortable with someone in bed happens over time, not on the first night.

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50. Please Then Be Pleased

This one’s easy, don’t be selfish in bed. Make sure you’ve given her everything she wants before moving on to your needs.

51. The Follow Up

The follow up will depend on whether you want to run things back again or not.

A nice follow up after sex to tell her you had a great time is the way to go even if you never plan on seeing her again.

For something long-term, make sure you take your time for the right response to let her know how much you’d like to see her again.

In conclusion, getting laid should be a simple process. Find someone you like, see if they like you and do what it takes to bring things home.

Follow these steps and keep at it and it will eventually happen. Remember, it’s a numbers game

Just like anything else in life, the more you practice the better you’ll get. Don’t work yourself up too much, women are just as nervous and meeting someone they feel comfortable with.

Now get out there are give it a shot.

 

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