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With 93% of all human communication being done non-verbally, you better believe decoding female body language is a valuable tool for meeting and dating women.
So, when does female body language indicate you’re in trouble?
1. She Gives You Zero Eye Contact.
2. She Sits Far Away From You.
3. She Avoids Physical Contact.
4. She Keeps Her Arms Crossed.
5. She Points Her Feet Away From You.
6. She Angles Her Entire Body Away From You.
7. She Appears Annoyed By Your Presence.
8. She Seems Cold And Detached.
For men, we tend to have a much more optimistic perspective of how things are going on a date rather than an objective one.
Her body language says it all.
Here are eight signs about her female body language that tell you she’s losing (or lost) interest in you:
1. She Gives You Zero Eye Contact
This is the coldest and most obvious sign you’ll experience if she’s not interested. Typically, people will make a polite effort with strangers to look you in the eyes during an exchange.
If a woman is done with you, all bets are off.
She can’t even look at you…
I’ve experienced this many times and usually became aware of her detachment within a few minutes. Sometimes, it was even paired with me catching her looking at other guys on our date!
**Don’t take it personally**
Trust me, it’s much better to know up front if it’s going anywhere with her. Really, she’s doing you a favor. It might feel cruel or mean in the moment, but not all people are meant to vibe with one another.
2. She Sits Far Away From You
I’ll make a bit of an admission – I was definitely a paranoid dater. For me, I tended to pick up on the negative female body language signs quickly, because something just felt off.
The little voice in my brain would shout out, “Ryan, why is she sitting way over there??” “Are you wearing deodorant??” “Does your breath reek??”
If she’s into you, you can bet she’d rather be physically closer to you than not. Ever been out with a group of friends and she never ends up anywhere near you?
Unfortunately, this wasn’t by accident. She’s telling you “no thanks.”
3. She Avoids Physical Contact
Ever go in for a hug with a woman that just felt so awkward? Maybe she put her hand in between your bodies to shake instead? Or it was obvious she didn’t want your chests to touch?
Female body language might as well come with a bullhorn. (**Sigh**)
The most blatant sign I remember is a girl who wouldn’t even shake my hand. She looked at it as if to shame it away.
As a result, these moments can cut right to your core and make the rest of the date excruciatingly tough. But at least you know the truth now.
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4. She Keeps Her Arms Crossed
I’m realizing now, in the middle of writing this, how painful some of these moments can be. Especially when you see these clusters of female body language on back-to-back dates.
You seriously feel like there is no woman out there for you.
Crossed arms are just that. One more sign things are going nowhere with her.
But you know what? There are plenty of women who will not cross there arms with you.
5. She Points Her Feet Away From You
This one is much more difficult to spot because her feet will be under a table out of view. It can be almost bizarre when you see this female body language signal in action, because it almost feels conscious and intentional.
I want to remind you of one important thing to remember – she doesn’t know she’s doing these things.
Therefore, when you catch her feet pointed in another direction for minutes on end, it might be time to wrap things up with her.
6. She Angles Her Entire Body Away From You
I’ve definitely misinterpreted this female body language red flag many times looking back. Because I actually thought this was a sign she was flirting with me.
It was something about her being asymmetrical that totally misled me.
But, it always leads to the same place. Something at the end of the night that goes like, “I had fun…You’re really nice.”
In short, if her shoulders aren’t square with yours for a majority of your time with her, she’s moved on in her mind.
7. She Appears Annoyed By Your Presence
She can try as hard as she wants, but she can’t hide her disdain and annoyance when she’s not into you. Typically, you don’t see this female body language sign because it can feel rude and blatant. She’ll try to mask it.
I’m pretty dismissive of the girl if this sign becomes apparent, because if she’s that uncomfortable or annoyed, she should just end the date.
It can also be a sign of immaturity if it feels she’s not trying to be polite at all. Therefore, it is important to be proactive, stand up, pay whatever tab you’ve racked up, and say “thank you, I have to go now.”
You’ve just salvaged the rest of your evening.
8. She Seems Cold And Detached
I know I was a little harsh on the woman in the female body language scenario in #7. But, someone has got to put an end to things when the interaction clearly is not working out.
It could very well be she’s uncertain about how to tell you and will just stick it out. If I sense this, I usually check in at this moment and ask “is everything OK” even though I already know the answer.
By asking her this question, it gives her space to let you know in a more direct, verbal way she’s not interested.
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Time is always the thing of which we had more. Let’s face it, we’ve all been in relationships that should have ended ions ago.
Firstly, if you see any of these signs in talking with her, politely exit the conversation and move on. Secondly, if you’re on a date, subtly mention you sense “the vibe might be off” and wait for her reaction.
She may be thrown off and ask “really?? what do you mean?,” which means you may have misread the moment. I’ve witnessed all of these possibilities personally.
But if you’ve read her correctly, she’ll probably nod in agreement and the date should wind to a conclusion quickly.
Hello,
Thanks for taking the time to spell it out for us! It’s so easy to get the wrong idea based on misinterpreting gestures and body language.
I have to say I had no idea about the feet pointing away thing. Granted, most of the time, you’re probably not looking at her feet, if you can see them at all. Most of the other indicators you listed make sense. I’m a little surprised at the one about angling their body away from you. I too, would have thought that was flirting or maybe a “come check my out” type of maneuver.
Thanks again!
Haha, totally Scott! The feet pointing away is a sneaky one!
If you’re aware of these 8 things, you’ll start to catch the *other* body language signals from her when she’s actually attracted to you. It’s kind of fun! These signals end up being right smack in your face once you get the hang of it! Thanks for reading 🙂 -R
I haven’t been out dating much but this list sure makes sense. There are all kinds of signs that someone is not interested in you. The sooner you pick up on the signs the quicker you will be able to just get out of the situation and save yourself some time and engery. There is no point in wasting your time and thiers on a date that neither one of you is interested in. It can get very awkward and uncomfortable.
Hi Shy!
Totally agree on saving your time and theirs if things just aren’t clicking on a date. I had one girl get five minutes into our first drink before she stood up and said. “You’re a very nice person, Ryan, but I’m just not interested. I’m sorry.” Then, she got up and left. Getting rejected sucks, but I had so much respect for her afterwards and learned a huge lesson on that date.
Thanks for reading! -R
I couldn’t agree more with the 8 truths you just laid out in this article. I have dated a few girls over the years, some where lacking interest due to my own fault, I was screwing it up, but the other ones just weren’t interested.
A question though, what If I am really into a girl and she’s not interested at all, everything you just described here, she did on our date. How can I win her heart or attraction?
Hey Isaac!
This is a really great question, because guys can feel helpless when they know she’s not “feelin’ it.” If you’re getting all of the negative signs from her, it’s honestly best to cut your losses and move on. However, if you really think she’s worth pursuing, I would try one of two things:
1. Create some distance initially – You need a reset with her, which means putting a little distance between the two of you for a little while. If she’s not in your regular daily ecosystem and you don’t know her very well, this will be virtually impossible. The idea is to focus on you for a bit, pick up a new hobby or start a new project. Then when you come back around into her sphere, you’ll have something fun and new to talk about.
2. Become friends – Yes, I know “the friend zone” gets stigmatized, but there’s also something called “friends first.” My fiancé and I had the unique opportunity to be friends (and business partners) before we fell in love with each other. It requires a lot of patience and a dedication to really getting to know them, but understand there are no guarantees she’ll fall for you. You have to be okay with just being friends with the prospect of something more intimate blooming from that. Make sense?
Hope that helps! Follow your gut and be true to yourself every step of the way 😉 Good luck! -R
Hey Scott!
Whoosh, who would have thought there was so much we needed to be aware so we know where we stand with women? Great to have all this information but will I remember it all in the middle of a date? 😲
Maybe I need an app on my phone that pops up with revealing body language questions as the date progresses? As I answer these the app could offer me advice about what to do next… you know stuff like… “Move on,she has!!” 😅
No but seriously, great article and tips here.I would say it’s in our best interests to become hyper vigilant and aware of non verbal clues to we don’t make fools out of ourselves, more than is necessary. What do you think?
Mark
Hi Scott!
Oooo I’m liking the tech angle you’re suggesting! Could be a real money maker haha!
Once you’ve seen the sign once, you’ve seen it a million times, so it becomes second nature to you after awhile. If we’re more focused on behavior and body language on that crucial first date especially, we’ll just end up with a better sense of where things are heading with her. I’d say don’t overthink things because that’s when us fellas get into the most trouble! 🙂
Thanks for your thoughts, Scott! -R